And Baby Makes Six

“Maybe you guys could have another baby, so we could get another movie.” My six-year-old son announced at supper. He was given arrival gifts from his new baby brother, which included a movie. Maybe it would be easier to just have another baby, at least in the eyes of a six-year-old.

 

With the birth of our fourth child, our son, there are two questions that people constantly ask. I've come to expect them because they are the same questions I was asked when I had our other children. “How are the big brothers and sister taking to him?” and “How are you feeling?” My automatic reply is “They are good.” and “I'm fine.” These are the polite conversation reply’s because no one wants to hear about the gruesome details. However, I thought I would document them here for posterity. Also, I know you all reading this are interested.

 

Seven weeks ago, my husband dropped me off at the hospital to get checked into registration. He went back home to take our 6-year old and 4-year old to school, while my mom stayed with our 2-year old. She arrived at our house early that morning to manage the circus while we were away. Many of the nurses I passed in the hall gave me a pitying look, which I imagined was because I was alone. I felt compelled to tell them why, which we had decided was much easier than my mom taking them all to school. I was led to the delivery room that I was so familiar with and to the awaiting nurse. I smiled and felt so relieved that I gave Loretta a hug. She is the nurse that was there for my first two labors and deliveries. I requested her, but the midwife was unsure when she was going to be working. Loretta started the IV and went through all the necessary paperwork. The midwife checked me and tried to break my water. She gave me the sorry smile because she couldn't do it. The baby's head was blocking my tipped cervix. My husband arrived as I was getting the Pitocin. Loretta spent the morning getting the equipment ready because she said, “I don't trust you. Once that baby moves its head, it is coming out.”

 

By noon, I was unplugged from the many hoses and tubes and was walking the halls. When we got back to the room, my husband had a velvet bag laying on the bed. I opened it to find a pair of pearl earrings. He smiled and helped me put them on. I had some chocolate ice cream and water for lunch, while my husband had Sub City. The midwife came back to check me with little results, but enough to break my water. It was a trickle because the baby's head was still blocking everything. I went a couple of hours on the birthing ball and pacing the room. By 5pm, I was really concerned that I wouldn't deliver by 7, which was the shift change for the nurses. I also hurt like hell with no epidural. I was holding out because I thought the baby would have moved his head by then. I ordered the epidural, which upon completion was followed by my midwife declaring that I was ready. Before I started pushing my husband gave me another velvet bag with a pearl necklace. He helped me put it on and said that now I was ready to deliver our baby. With each push the midwife had to move the baby, who was facing the wrong way and had his arms chicken winged out. I pushed three times with a lot of finagling from the midwife, we welcomed our son. After a while I noticed the room was completely silent. The nurses had wheeled out all the carts and took the chaos with them. My husband took that time to give me the third navy velvet bag, which held a pearl bracelet. He was helping me put it on when I saw a nurse out of the corner of my eye walk in and turn around. She later said she didn't want to interrupt such a wonderful moment.

 

That night, my parents brought our three older children to meet their new baby brother. They each held him and were given their presents. Once the presents were given they lost interest in the new baby. They did ask when we were coming home, and we had to explain that they were so lucky to have Elmo and Papa (my parents) there to take care of them. Each day they visited the hospital, and loved it so much that our 4-year old didn't want to leave.

 

The love that the older siblings have shown the newest member of the family always amazes me. My oldest son likes to give him his blanket, his paci, and tell me when he needs to be fed. He is forever the helper. My second born son likes to hold him, sing to him, and pray to him. He imitates what I have done for him since he was a baby. My daughter loves all the baby things. She loves to hold him with her other babies. She tells me to “get him” if I'm not holding him, which she thinks he belongs in my arms forever. If he cries, she shshsss next to his ear. She is my mother hen. They all take such good care of him.

 

Having our fourth child cemented my belief that we are giving our children the greatest gift in each other. They will adventure together, imagine together, learn together, make trouble together, and fight together. Through it all they will forever love each other.